Kareena Kapoor Khan's Pregnancy Bible allows her fans a glimpse into the good, bad and bloated of being pregnant. This excerpt is taken from the section titled 'Your emotions', from the chapter, Your First Trimester, where she covers comprehensively all the physiological and psychological changes that pregnant women can expect.
Childbirth is the leading cause of fear among most women. There is the fear of handling the pain of a vaginal birth or worries over a Caesarean. You know that feeling of nervousness in the pit of your stomach before a big exam? It may just take you back to those days in school. Writing your thoughts down might relieve some of those anxieties. Make lists - shopping, to-do, exercises, meditation targets and work deadlines; staying task-oriented might actually give your anxieties a good outlet. The most important thing to remember is that this is the world's most natural process, that countless women have been on this journey. You are not alone.
Those 'raging hormones' can also make you feel emotionally wrought. You may catch yourself fighting with your partner, snapping at a colleague or scolding your older child - and regretting it the next day. Remember, you haven't turned into a monster, and that this is a passing phase. Feeling angry and alienated is very much a real thing - no matter what a rosy little bubble people think your pregnancy is.
Try and figure out where this anger is projecting from. For instance, do you feel your partner isn't as involved or attentive as you'd like? Do you think your family isn't pitching in enough? Do you sense an inequality at your workplace? Your emotions can follow any narrative. This is the right time to just find someone you can talk to about these feelings - your partner, a friend, family or even a counsellor. Your partner can step in at this stage - their role is an important component of your 40 weeks
Many moms also feel a strong nesting instinct in the third trimester as the due date comes closer. It is basically a compulsive need for you to plan, clean, decorate and prepare for your baby. It could manifest as a mad shopping urge or a manic spring-cleaning spree in your house. It's quite likely because you want everything to be perfect for your little one. Just bear in mind that you are also getting big and are tiring faster, so stop to rest and stay clued in with the signs your body is giving you.
Then there are pregnancy dreams! Have they happened to you already? For a lot of women, pregnancy dreams kick in during trimester three. There is no rocket science behind these dreams, so you don't need to overthink them. Essentially, all your hormones and your emotions - whether joy, fear, ambivalence, uncertainty, anxiety, excitement - need an outlet. Experts say these are what pregnancy dreams are all about. What sort of dreams do most women get? A picture of life with a baby. Crazy sex dreams. Frightening childbirth images. Holidays in Kashmir. Being an all-star parent. Being a terrible parent! Everything is fair game.When I was pregnant with Taimur, I was younger and more energetic. I felt fitter. I was out and about and - yes - I had my mojo! But I didn't feel particularly sexy when I was pregnant with Jeh. I was quite a wreck for a good part of my first four months. I noticed a drastic shift in my libido. I read up about it, and it's very common. And I was truly grateful for Saif's support during this time. He was always so understanding. Not every woman feels good. Not every woman feels sexy. And to make love, you need to feel beautiful and feel loved. Any partner needs to understand how women feel with their changing hormones and with carrying a whole life inside them. When you're pregnant, sex often does not feel that important. Even though things eased out for me from my fifth month, my second pregnancy was definitely tough.All photographs and captions are extracts from: Kareena Kapoor Khan's Pregnancy Bible: The ultimate manual for moms-to-be, published by Juggernaut Books, August 2021.
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