- Topping, or taking the more active role during sex, can come with a lot of pressure if you aren't experienced.
- Mixing it up in the bedroom can open a new world of sensation for you and your partner.
For queer people, figuring out whether you like to top, bottom, or switch (also known as "verses") can be the first step to having a fulfilling and pleasurable sex life.
But sometimes, if you're a top - or person who likes to have a more active role during sex - you may feel pressure to find creative ways to mix up your sex life.
Here are some sex positions for gay tops that can help take the guess work out of the night.
Missionary allows you to make make eye contact, kiss your partner, and maybe get in a bite or two while you top them.
Your partner lays on their back facing you while you thrust on top of them, allowing for deep penetration. This can make it easier to communicate during sex about what feels good.
2. Doggie style
Doggie style can be a great way to top your partner. Like the position name implies, your partner kneels on all fours while you penetrate them from behind.
For added sensation, you can also reach around and give them a hand job at the same time.
Spooning can be an intimate position that lets you and your partner cuddle as you penetrate them. Like doggie style, your partner faces away from you as you penetrate them from behind.
Normally, both people lay on their sides during sex, like non-sexual spooning.
4. Cowboy and reverse cowboy
Rider positions can let you top while giving your partner more control. Your partner can lower themselves onto you and ride while you lay on your back.
Cowboy lets you make eye contact with your partner during sex, while the rider faces away in a reverse cowboy.
Sometimes, using your hands during sex can be a great way to stimulate your partner's G-spot or P-spot without using a penis or strap-on.
Fisting utilizes your entire hand to penetrate your partner by starting slow and using lots of lube to slide in and out.
6. Rusty trombone
Sometimes, topping doesn't have to involve penetration at all.
To play the rusty trombone, your partner kneels on all fours while you perform analingus and give them a hand job. This sex position creates a combined sensation that can feel amazing for your partner.